We’re all seeking that special
person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships,
you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong.
Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out
partners who are wrong in some complementary way.
But
it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t
until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable
problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a
lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re
looking for the wrong person.
But
not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze
upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I
will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let
our scars fall in love.
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Galway Kinnell (A repost)